sometimes I ponder, and wonder why people do certain things, what makes a person fall in love with someone, why does a person fall out of love with someone, how can someone just decide that well, I loved you for dozens of years and now I don't love you like I did, and I want out of this marriage, I mean, yes I know that people do marry and divorce all the time, but, why if you love someone, do you decide to stop loving them and decide to love someone else, and how can you say, I still love you, but not like I use to, because I found someone else that is better than you are or ever were?

combining my husbands and my families, there are a total of 9 divorces , so I know it happens, I just can't fathom why it happens and why so often. I know that abuse is a major reason for divorce, which is understandable, but how does someone fall in love with their spouse, live with them for 20, 30 even 40 or more years, then one day realize that, hey, I no longer love this person like I thought I did, time to move on

does he/she not realize that by deciding to divorce they are destroying not only their partner of several years, but also their children and both sides of the families too.

I guess I just am confused by the emotions of people and just don't understand emotional feelings like most people do, yes, I know that my emotional life style is different than most, that I don't precieve emotions like most people, yes, I know its because of things that happened when I was a child. maybe someday I will understand it, but I dout it tho, you see, I love my husband, I was lucky enought to find my soul mate, and I did marry when I was older and made sure that I loved him and wanted to be with him for always